{"id":5477,"date":"2026-01-23T12:20:57","date_gmt":"2026-01-23T11:20:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mojesebepoznani.cz\/?p=5477"},"modified":"2026-01-28T12:59:02","modified_gmt":"2026-01-28T11:59:02","slug":"odpustit-ale-nezradit-pravdu-proc-je-prani-promeny-silnejsi-nez-pomsta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/odpustit-ale-nezradit-pravdu-proc-je-prani-promeny-silnejsi-nez-pomsta\/","title":{"rendered":"Odpustit, ale nezradit pravdu: pro\u010d je p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed prom\u011bny siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e pomsta"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Kdy\u017e je \u010dlov\u011bku ubl\u00ed\u017eeno \u2013 fyzicky, psychicky \u010di mor\u00e1ln\u011b \u2013 vyno\u0159\u00ed se v n\u011bm p\u0159irozen\u00e1 reakce: touha po spravedliv\u00e9 odplat\u011b. P\u0159ejeme si, aby vin\u00edk \u201epoznal, jak\u00e9 to je\u201c, aby poc\u00edtil stejnou bolest, jakou zp\u016fsobil. Tento impulz nen\u00ed zn\u00e1mkou zla, ale instinktivn\u00ed obrannou reakc\u00ed lidsk\u00e9 psychiky. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1 n\u00e1m vymezit hranice a chr\u00e1nit d\u016fstojnost. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 v\u0161ak historie, psychologie i osobn\u00ed zku\u0161enost ukazuj\u00ed, \u017ee pomsta m\u00e1lokdy p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed skute\u010dn\u00fd klid. Hn\u011bv m\u016f\u017ee utichnout, ale vnit\u0159n\u00ed nap\u011bt\u00ed \u010dasto z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1. Pr\u00e1v\u011b zde se otev\u00edr\u00e1 ot\u00e1zka: existuje jin\u00e1 cesta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201eSlab\u00ed lid\u00e9 se mst\u00ed, siln\u00ed odpou\u0161t\u011bj\u00ed, a moud\u0159\u00ed se od toho distancuj\u00ed.\u201c<\/p>(inspirov\u00e1no v\u00fdrokem b\u011b\u017en\u011b p\u0159ipisovan\u00fdm Albertu Einsteinovi)<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\t\t

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<\/i>\t\t\r\n\t\tTalisman, kter\u00fd otev\u0159el br\u00e1nu: O p\u0159edm\u011btech, co z\u00e1\u0159\u00ed v\u00edc, ne\u017e si mysl\u00edme\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\t\t
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<\/i>\t\t\r\n\t\tJak v sob\u011b probudit vnit\u0159n\u00ed s\u00edlu a p\u0159ekonat vlastn\u00ed limity\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\t\t
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<\/i>\t\t\r\n\t\tSrdce a intuice: Jak se naladit na svou vnit\u0159n\u00ed pravdu\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\t\t
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<\/i>\t\t\r\n\t\tMeditace a mind-body techniky pro zvl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed stresu\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t<\/div>\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t<\/div>\r\n\t\t\n\n\n\n

Co je odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed \u2013 a co nen\u00ed<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed je \u010dasto myln\u011b ch\u00e1p\u00e1no jako:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  • zapomenut\u00ed k\u0159ivdy,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • pop\u0159en\u00ed bolesti,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • omluven\u00ed viny,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • rezignace na spravedlnost.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    Ve skute\u010dnosti odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed nen\u00ed akt ve prosp\u011bch vin\u00edka, ale rozhodnut\u00ed ob\u011bti<\/strong>. Znamen\u00e1 p\u0159estat n\u00e9st b\u0159emeno nen\u00e1visti, nikoli zru\u0161it odpov\u011bdnost za \u010din.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Psychologick\u00e9 v\u00fdzkumy dlouhodob\u011b ukazuj\u00ed, \u017ee lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed dok\u00e1\u017eou odpustit (i bez omluvy vin\u00edka), maj\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    • ni\u017e\u0161\u00ed m\u00edru chronick\u00e9ho stresu,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • lep\u0161\u00ed psychick\u00e9 zdrav\u00ed,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • men\u0161\u00ed sklony k depres\u00edm a \u00fazkostem,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pocit vnit\u0159n\u00ed svobody.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

      Odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed tedy nen\u00ed mor\u00e1ln\u00ed povinnost, ale n\u00e1stroj du\u0161evn\u00ed hygieny<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Co se d\u011bje v mozku, kdy\u017e odpou\u0161t\u00edme<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      Modern\u00ed neurov\u011bda ukazuje, \u017ee dlouhodob\u00e1 z\u00e1\u0161\u0165 udr\u017euje aktivn\u00ed oblasti mozku spojen\u00e9 se stresem a ohro\u017een\u00edm (zejm\u00e9na amygdalu). Odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed naopak:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      • aktivuje prefront\u00e1ln\u00ed k\u016fru (oblast rozumu a seberegulace),<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      • sni\u017euje hladinu stresov\u00fdch hormon\u016f,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
      • podporuje pocit kontroly a smyslu.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

        Jin\u00fdmi slovy: odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed nen\u00ed potla\u010den\u00ed emoc\u00ed, ale jejich p\u0159etvo\u0159en\u00ed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Pomsta vs. p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed prom\u011bny<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

        P\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed pomsty m\u00e1 jasnou logiku:
        \u201eKdy\u017e bude trp\u011bt on, ulev\u00ed se mn\u011b.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

        Realita v\u0161ak b\u00fdv\u00e1 opa\u010dn\u00e1. Pomsta:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          \n
        • udr\u017euje ob\u011b\u0165 v psychick\u00e9m propojen\u00ed s vin\u00edkem,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
        • prodlu\u017euje emocion\u00e1ln\u00ed bolest,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
        • posiluje cyklus n\u00e1sil\u00ed a odplaty.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

          Naprotitomu p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed prom\u011bny vin\u00edka<\/strong> \u2013 aby se mu otev\u0159elo srdce, aby pochopil, aby v n\u011bm vznikl soucit \u2013 m\u00e1 jinou dynamiku. Neusiluje o bolest, ale o zastaven\u00ed dal\u0161\u00edho ubli\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Z hlediska spole\u010densk\u00e9ho je to kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          • potrestan\u00fd, ale vnit\u0159n\u011b nezm\u011bn\u011bn\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk se m\u016f\u017ee provin\u011bn\u00ed dopustit znovu,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
          • \u010dlov\u011bk, kter\u00fd pochop\u00ed d\u016fsledky sv\u00fdch \u010din\u016f, m\u00e1 \u0161anci chov\u00e1n\u00ed zm\u011bnit.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

            P\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed prom\u011bny tedy nen\u00ed sentiment\u00e1ln\u00ed idealismus, ale prevence budouc\u00edho zla<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Odpustit neznamen\u00e1 znovu riskovat bolest<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

            D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 a \u010dasto p\u0159ehl\u00ed\u017een\u00e1 pravda zn\u00ed:
            lze odpustit a z\u00e1rove\u0148 chr\u00e1nit sv\u00e9 hranice<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

            Odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

              \n
            • nevy\u017eaduje obnoven\u00ed vztahu,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            • nevy\u017eaduje d\u016fv\u011bru,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
            • nevy\u017eaduje kontakt.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

              Je mo\u017en\u00e9 \u0159\u00edci:
              \u201eNep\u0159eji ti pomstu, ale u\u017e ti ned\u00e1m p\u0159\u00edstup ke sv\u00e9mu \u017eivotu.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

              To je postoj zral\u00fd, nikoli slab\u00fd. Ale existuje je\u0161t\u011b jeden stup\u00ednek k moudrosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

              Pro\u010d je p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed otev\u0159en\u00e9ho srdce nejvy\u0161\u0161\u00ed formou spravedlnosti<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

              P\u0159\u00e1t n\u011bkomu probuzen\u00ed sv\u011bdom\u00ed znamen\u00e1:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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              • p\u0159\u00e1t mu, aby vid\u011bl pravdu, m\u00edsto pomsty a pokra\u010duj\u00edc\u00edho utrpen\u00ed…<\/li>\n\n\n\n
              • p\u0159\u00e1t mu odpov\u011bdnost bez sebeklamu, m\u00edsto „rozdrcen\u00ed“<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                Takov\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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                • neumen\u0161uje utrpen\u00ed ob\u011bti,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                • nezleh\u010duje \u010din,<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                • ale ukon\u010duje \u0161\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed bolesti a utrpen\u00ed.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                  Z etick\u00e9ho hlediska jde o postoj, kter\u00fd p\u0159esahuje osobn\u00ed emoce a m\u00ed\u0159\u00ed k dlouhodob\u00e9mu dobru spole\u010dnosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  S\u00edla, kter\u00e1 nen\u00ed vid\u011bt<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

                  Odpustit neznamen\u00e1 b\u00fdt slab\u00fd. Naopak \u2013 odpustit dok\u00e1\u017ee jen ten, kdo si je v\u011bdom sv\u00e9 hodnoty<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Ti\u0161e p\u0159\u00e1t up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e9 otev\u0159en\u00ed srdce tam, kde bylo ubl\u00ed\u017eeno, je tich\u00e9, nen\u00e1padn\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed. Nezn\u00ed hrdinsk\u00e9, nen\u00ed dramatick\u00e9, ale m\u00e1 hlubok\u00fd dopad. M\u011bn\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u00ed sv\u011bt jednotlivce \u2013 a t\u00edm i sv\u011bt kolem n\u011bj.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Mo\u017en\u00e1 pr\u00e1v\u011b v t\u00e9to nen\u00e1padn\u00e9 s\u00edle spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 skute\u010dn\u00fd pokrok lidskosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

                  Informa\u010dn\u00ed zdroje:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

                  Psychologie a neurov\u011bda<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                  • Robert Enright<\/strong>
                    Pr\u016fkopn\u00edk v\u011bdeck\u00e9ho v\u00fdzkumu odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed.
                    Forgiveness Therapy<\/em> \u2013 ukazuje, \u017ee odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed je proces, nikoli jednor\u00e1zov\u00fd akt, a m\u00e1 m\u011b\u0159iteln\u00e9 pozitivn\u00ed dopady na psychiku.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                  • Everett L. Worthington<\/strong>
                    Autor modelu REACH Forgiveness<\/strong>, pou\u017e\u00edvan\u00e9ho v terapii i mediaci konflikt\u016f.
                    V\u00fdzkumy potvrzuj\u00ed sn\u00ed\u017een\u00ed stresu, hn\u011bvu a psychosomatick\u00fdch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                  • American Psychological Association (APA)<\/strong>
                    Publikuje p\u0159ehledov\u00e9 studie o vlivu odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed na zdrav\u00ed, vztahy a regulaci emoc\u00ed.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                    Biologie a zdrav\u00ed<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                    • Studie publikovan\u00e9 v Journal of Behavioral Medicine<\/em>
                      Ukazuj\u00ed souvislost mezi dlouhodobou z\u00e1\u0161t\u00ed a:\n
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                      • zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00fdm krevn\u00edm tlakem<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                      • oslabenou imunitou<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                      • vy\u0161\u0161\u00ed hladinou kortizolu<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                      • V\u00fdzkumy potvrzuj\u00ed, \u017ee odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed aktivuje oblasti mozku spojen\u00e9 s empati\u00ed a seberegulac\u00ed<\/strong>, zat\u00edmco pomsta udr\u017euje stresovou reakci.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                        Filozofie a etika<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                        • Hannah Arendt<\/strong>
                          V d\u00edle Vita activa<\/em> popisuje odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed jako n\u00e1stroj, kter\u00fd umo\u017e\u0148uje lidstvu za\u010d\u00edt znovu, ani\u017e by bylo uv\u011bzn\u011bno minul\u00fdmi \u010diny.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                        • Friedrich Nietzsche<\/strong>
                          Kriticky rozli\u0161uje mezi pomstou z resentimentu a v\u011bdom\u00fdm p\u0159ekon\u00e1n\u00edm k\u0159ivdy jako projevem s\u00edly.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                        • Seneca<\/strong>
                          Ve stoick\u00e9 tradici ch\u00e1pe odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed jako v\u00fdraz vl\u00e1dy nad sebou sam\u00fdm.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                          Duchovn\u00ed a humanistick\u00e9 zdroje<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                          • Mahatma Gandhi<\/strong>
                            Princip nen\u00e1sil\u00ed (ahimsa<\/em>) stoj\u00ed na my\u0161lence, \u017ee prom\u011bna protivn\u00edka je \u00fa\u010dinn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e jeho zni\u010den\u00ed.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                          • Martin Luther King Jr.<\/strong>
                            Ve sv\u00fdch projevech zd\u016fraz\u0148uje, \u017ee nen\u00e1vist nelze odstranit nen\u00e1vist\u00ed, ale pouze porozum\u011bn\u00edm a l\u00e1skou.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                          • Dalajl\u00e1ma<\/strong>
                            Opakovan\u011b poukazuje na to, \u017ee odpu\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed je p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm ochranou vnit\u0159n\u00edho klidu ob\u011bti.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                            Spole\u010densk\u00e9 a restorativn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edstupy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                            • Restorativn\u00ed justice<\/strong> (restorative justice)
                              Pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1na v trestn\u00edm pr\u00e1vu, \u0161kolstv\u00ed i komunitn\u00ed mediaci.
                              Zam\u011b\u0159uje se na:\n
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                              • pochopen\u00ed n\u00e1sledk\u016f \u010dinu<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                              • p\u0159evzet\u00ed odpov\u011bdnosti<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                              • mo\u017enost n\u00e1pravy
                                nikoli na pouhou odplatu.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                              • P\u0159\u00edpadov\u00e9 studie z Kanady, Nov\u00e9ho Z\u00e9landu a seversk\u00fdch zem\u00ed potvrzuj\u00ed ni\u017e\u0161\u00ed recidivu<\/strong> u pachatel\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed pro\u0161li procesem vnit\u0159n\u00edho pochopen\u00ed viny.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

                                Doporu\u010den\u00e1 literatura (srozumiteln\u00e1 i pro laiky)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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                                • Forgiving What You Can\u2019t Forget<\/em> \u2013 Lysa TerKeurst<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                                • The Book of Forgiving<\/em> \u2013 Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                                • O hn\u011bvu<\/em> \u2013 Seneca<\/li>\n\n\n\n
                                • Nen\u00e1sil\u00ed<\/em> \u2013 Mah\u00e1tma G\u00e1ndh\u00ed (v\u00fdbory text\u016f)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

                                  Kdy\u017e je \u010dlov\u011bku ubl\u00ed\u017eeno \u2013 fyzicky, psychicky \u010di mor\u00e1ln\u011b \u2013 vyno\u0159\u00ed se v n\u011bm p\u0159irozen\u00e1 reakce: touha po spravedliv\u00e9 odplat\u011b. P\u0159ejeme si, aby vin\u00edk \u201epoznal, jak\u00e9 to je\u201c, aby poc\u00edtil stejnou bolest, jakou zp\u016fsobil. Tento impulz nen\u00ed zn\u00e1mkou zla, ale instinktivn\u00ed obrannou reakc\u00ed lidsk\u00e9 psychiky. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1 n\u00e1m vymezit hranice a chr\u00e1nit d\u016fstojnost. Z\u00e1rove\u0148 v\u0161ak historie, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":5478,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[462,460,461,463,464],"class_list":{"0":"post-5477","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-sebepoznani-a-osobni-rozvoj","8":"tag-lidskost","9":"tag-odpusteni","10":"tag-pomsta","11":"tag-soucit","12":"tag-vnitrni-promena"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5477","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5477"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5477\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5485,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5477\/revisions\/5485"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5477"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5477"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/d.r4.wbsprt.com\/mojesebepoznani.cz\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5477"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}